Gentleness: Actions and Words

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For a couple weeks, I've had friends talking about a Gentleness Challenge that started.When I first heard about it I thought, whatever, and pushed it aside. I mean, I'm a gentle person, I consider the feelings of others, I try to be sweet and kind.  Last week, after reading several blog posts, I decided to check it out. I'm glad I did because I realized I wasn't as gentle as I thought. I needed gentleness in actions and words during our homeschool hours. Gentleness in actions and words. Let's not forget body language as it tells a whole different story.

Gentleness in Actions and Words

What I read, showed me some things in my life where I'm not so gentle.  There have been times, where I have found myself yelling at my son when it comes to school work, keeping his room clean, and obeying. When I think back on those times, it makes me shudder. I want my son to fear me as a form of respect, but I do not want him to be scared of me. I want him to know he can come to me and we can talk about anything, without me flying off the handle at him or stopping him before he can say what he wants or needs to. This kind of action quickly closes the door to open communication and I want that door to stay open for us.

When I read the following paragraphs, it dawned on me, that it is not only children that do this, but adults also. Really, who likes to be yelled at?

For the past week, I have worked on slowing down and breathing. I've worked on my body language and lowering my voice.  You may not be screaming at the top of your lungs, but your body language will show the real reaction you are having.  I've done a lot of praying this past week. I've made sure that I have my morning devotions and prayed before my son begins moving around. My days are much smoother when I complete those two things before hand. Since I've started working on being more gentle, I've noticed a difference in my home.

This week, while I continue to work on gentleness in actions and words, I'm going to be working on :

Expectations ~ making sure I'm not expecting too much from my son. Exhaustion ~ making sure I am getting enough rest. Disorganization ~ making sure I'm prepared. Bitterness in your marriage ~ making sure that I'm not allowing something between my husband me to filter into my relationship with my son. Proverbs ~I'm going to work on marking all the verses in Proverbs that deals with communication and speech and memorizing some.

You can read my post on Gentleness - A Soft Answer